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Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Decisions Decisons

I haven't written lately because I've been too busy thinking. I hate thinking! If somebody could do all the thinking for me, I think I would be a much happier person. If somebody just came out and told me what to do, I'd do it. Ok, ya, that's probably not true.

I'll give you the long and short of it. The short story is that K and I have been on EI since before C was born. If anybody's counting, that's 14 months ago today. Needless to say money is really tight, and despite our efforts we still haven't found anything.

The long of it is that a good friend of the family works for a small but growing company that would be a great place to work. I think the company is perfect for me, and I dare say I'm perfect for the company. I had a meeting with them on Tuesday and it went really well. They would like me to come back and see the co-founder next week. Great! You say. Yes, great. And not so great. Not so great because traveling to the office would take 1.5 hours each way. Leaving the office at 5pm probably wouldn't have me home until 7ish because of the GO train schedule, and with C going to bed at 7:30 I would only have 30mins with her. Ugh. But with the way finances are, I hardly feel like a have a choice in the matter. As my friend says, "pull on your big girl panties" right? Right, so that's what I'll do. If they offer me the position, I'll take it. It's all about what's best for the family right? Paying our mortgage and bills is the most important thing right? Then why have I had a headache and been nauseous for the past 2 days?

I really don't know what to do.... somebody tell me what I should do! What would you do?


  1. Nik, when I was little my mum had to be the main breadwinner. I spent so much time with my dad, and loved it! We still have a really strong bond. My mum was working similar hours as you will be. I can vividly remember one day dad left me with mum for the afternoon, and I cried as he left. I must have been about three years old. Now that I'm grown up I know that must have really hurt my mum's feelings, but we have had soooo many wonderful talks and times since then that it really didn't affect our strong relationship at all.
    Cadence will be fine. You and Cadence will be fine! If this is what you decide to do, know that Cadence will respect your decision and love that you were able to sacrifice so much for her. I know I do for my mum.

  2. Sorry, not going to tell you what to do. I can tell you what I would do. I would take the job. At least your DH will be home with C, so she will have one parent home. Many husbands leave before baby wakes up and have limited time before baby goes to sleep. That said it would SO suck! You can always try it for 3 months and re-evaluate then. Good luck with your decision!

  3. If I were in your position, I'd take the job. Yes, it will absolutely suck at times but it is a sacrifice for the family. Like others said, K will still be at home and C will still be with her family. Also, it's a foot in the door and will be a big boost on your resume. It will show that you returned to work after your maternity leave and you're gaining skills & experiences.

    Would it be possible for you to negotiate an early departure on Fridays if you agree to take desk lunches or work an extra 2 hours earlier in the week?

    Good luck!

  4. Nik- I know you will make the right decision. And personally- I like my big girl panties... :) they aren't so bad.

    Not all Mom's would willingly take a job they were offered if it meant leaving their baby all day. You are providing for your family- and if that means taking this job and letting DH be a SAHD for a while- then so be it.

    Being a grown up sucks sometimes, but we all gotta do it. It sounds like a great opportunity...

  5. To be perfectly honest, now that my husband is home, I would love to be the one going back to work and have him stay home with Chelsea. Unfortunately I don't think my husband will even entertain the thought. I think he will feel like "less of a man" if he isn't the one working and providing. I'd talk it over with K and make sure he has no insecurities about it. Good luck with your decision.